I am finally done with training wheels. I'm finished teaching Children how to ride without their wheels. Son learned how to ride on his own, without his two helper wheels a couple of days ago, and I'm thrilled to be done with this phase of life. Now everyone can ride their own two wheelers and it's one less thing I have to worry about teaching them.
Each time I've taught Children how to ride, it's been difficult, because there is fear in learning how to balance. There is fear about falling and there is fear of failure. They each wonder if they won't be able to actually ride the bike. Each child dealt with these fears in different ways. Daughter #1 closed her eyes, clenched her teeth and faced her fear head on. Daughter #2 calculated her fear against the benefits, and adamantly sat on the sidelines refusing to do it. Son kept on wanting to try, but needed continual reassurance that someone was right nearby to catch him, should he fall.
And each child managed to overcome his or her fear and learn to ride. I did have one rule for all of them, and it was try it 10 times before they could give up. Daughter #1 kept on trying it way beyond the 10, and mastered it quickly. Daughter #2 and I fought for every single one of those tries - each one was a battle of her screaming and my cajoling her and reminding her, reassuring her and finally forcing her to finish her 10 tries. (She was riding by try 11.) Son only wanted to try 2 times, but I explained that no one could learn it in two times, and that each time it would get better. Each try for him was a look of fear on his face followed by whines of reluctance and complaints of how he didn't like his bike anyways.
And it made me think about different fears that I have. What do I fear? And what can I try over and over again 10 times and see if I can't overcome my fear? After all, I've asked Children to do it - what can I do? It came to me. I want more practice praying for the impossible. I've had experience praying for healing for others, and praying for things for other people - but I want more practice praying boldly for me. I want more practice asking God boldly for what it is that I want. I don't want to fear failure, lack of faith, or disappointment. I want to practice asking boldly. 10 times as it were. So I've begun this prayer. 10 times to ask for what it is that I think that I cannot ask for. I'll let you know how it turns out.
In the meanwhile, I challenge all of you who are scared to cook and scared to try new things to try this simple salad. You can't mess it up, I promise. If you're invited to a bbq in the next couple of days or to a potluck dinner where you know the host is cooking up some nice steak or tri-tip, bring this.
Gorgonzola Tomato Salad
Serves 4 to 6
1 lb cherry tomatoes (a variety is lovely)
½ cup finely chopped red onion
½ cup crumbled Gorgonzola cheese
2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
1 tablespoon balsamic vinegar
salt and pepper to taste
Slice cherry tomatoes in half. Place in bowl. Add chopped onion and cheese. Drizzle olive oil and balsamic vinegar over. Toss and season with salt and pepper.
If you are taking this to a potluck, place tomatoes, red onion, and cheese in a bowl. Add olive oil, vinegar, salt and pepper right before serving.